Hey, Big Spender!
Men love to prove their worth through their wallet. And even the most
Independent Woman among us will let them- who’d say no to unexpected
Gifts and lavish gestures! The woman who has to foot the bill, that’s who………….
Shoestring guy
After years of being fobbed off with hallmarks, Interflora and milk tray, it’s nice
to get gifts that are more thoughtful than they are expensive. After all, when
was the last time a guy made you a card from scratch! Until you realize that when
he says ‘money doesn’t matter’, it’s because the doesn’t have any. Be wary when
he asks you to buy Pristick a few days before you birthday…………
Beyond Means Man
We all go wow when we get things that are above and beyond a man’s means,
but not at the expense of him being strapped for cash for the rest of the month.
In his head, he’s just spent all his cash on you, so when you point out you’d rather
he could cater for his side of the bargain than claim bankruptcy, he’s bound to
feel bitter. Until he has some money again and makes it up to you by treating
you, leaving you worried he’ll get the hump again = vicious cirle.com!
Miserly Guts
It feels secure to find a man that’s good with finances. Women are legendary
Spendthrifts (don’t blame us, it’s those never-ending sales) and its grounding
to have a man that ensures there’s no scrimping in the rainy days leading up
to payday. Except you’re loaded and he never does, which means if you want
to push the boat out – you’ll have to foot the bill.
There’s a line in respect, Aretha Franklin’s seminal girl power anthem, that
doesn’t sit right. I’m gonna give you all my money. Now Otis Redding sings
his version, the sentiment is commendable. Good man, working hard to
support his loved one. But when Aretha sings it, you have to wonder. Why
are you giving him any of your money! Get a grip girlfriend!
It wasn’t so long ago that this wasn’t an issue for us. The last generation of
Asian women were happy to tend the tawwa while the man brought home
the benguin, but it’s a very different kettle of fish these days. We earn our
own living and see it as a mark of our independence to pay our won way.
It’s hard enough being emotionally reliant on a man let along being
financially dependent on him too! In an ideal world he’d say: great,
let’s both pool our resources together and achieve great things. Or
even: you pay your way, I pay mine, let’s splash out in the middle.
What we don’t expect, whoever, is to be left counting the cost
because we ended up with a man like one of these…
Quid Pro Quo Man
Here’s a neat trick. When you start dating, he pay for everything. He’s
established himself as Mr. Generous from the outset. At some point
you say it’s only fair that you treat him for a change and, after much
insistence on your part, he caves in by letting you pay. Then a year
goes by and you realize you’re still paying….
How to keep his finances in check
You don’t want to be an accountant, but there’s no harm in keeping
track of who spends what.
Keeping a book might also help him see a pattern in his spending
that he can watch out for nest time.
Don’t be a lender. If he’s strapped for cash and you do loan him some,
make sure you get it back in full.
Get him to study hi bank statements carefully. Hook him upto online
banking so he can make daily checks.
Introduce him to this wonderful thing called saving!
Cutting down on a vice can show how much he saves.
Drill home the message: if you can’t effort it, you don’t get it!
